This will read somewhat like a random thoughts posts. Here goes:
Today we are inundated with wedding blogs, pinterest photos, magazines, facebook wedding status’, and DIY everything.
When planning your day it is hard not to get caught up in the whirlwind of it all. “Ooooh….how should my hair be…I need to have this picture and this picture and I have to lose that 10 lbs I’ve been trying to shed and the groomsmen have to be funky, my bridesmaids HAVE to look like blog worthy, etc.., etc…”.
Even when I got married two years ago, it wasn’t SUCH a thing.. weddings.
Here’s the bottom line: I’m a photographer and it’s my job to photograph your day. YOUR day. The one filled with up’s and down’s…..the nerves, the crying, family, friends and all the joy.
On the flip side, I love to photograph the latest and greatest stylings and trends. Who wouldn’t? I love pretty things. Everyone does. And I will help you find or make some styling decisions if you like, so please ask…
But all in all, I know that that’s NOT what is the most important thing about weddings. So if you don’t want to get sucked into the wedding vortex… don’t. You can choose not to worry about having the perfect flowers/dress/decorations. Liking what you like and having fun with all the details….? If that’s your thing then go crazzzzy… If it’s not…. then don’t. There is a happy medium. You CAN have a cute and beautiful day FULL of wonderful memories to last your lifetime.
Honestly, for me….I was engaged to Colin and then we suddenly got pregnant so after the birth of my daughter I started trying to plan my wedding. I asked my bridesmaids if they would stand up with me. I started making things….paper flowers….I booked a photographer and I started on the quest of finding ideas for decorations/food etc… And quite honestly, it kept me up at night. The stress was overwhelming…I’m a crazzzy perfectionist and I wanted to have EVERYTHING be just so. With a new baby, I was going to lose my mind.
So up late one night with our 3 week old…. after heart palpitations from worrying about this wedding i ‘dreamed of’ ( okay…i’m dramatic)….I proposed we get married the following weekend at a family BBQ. And that’s what we did. It felt perfect for us.! Crazzzzy right? Well that kinda encompasses my personality. I’m not your average gal. ha! And I’ll tell you that with all the weddings I’ve been to, I’ve never really regretted that decision. Because everything we did on the day was planned with the intention of ‘finally being husband and wife’..it wasn’t to impress anyone else…..so the bouquet I ordered…and the dress I bought 4 days before the ceremony…they weren’t perfect. They weren’t what I’d choose if I had to do over…but they were perfect at the time and I have nothing but GREAT memories from my day.
So for YOUR wedding… do what makes YOU happy and no one else. Because I can tell you that the day goes by in a flash. And you won’t want it to be filled with anxiety and coulda, woulda, shoulda’s….
You have the power to buy into what the interweb is telling you and you have to power to say…nope….I want this and this for wedding and that’s it. I’m going to enjoy the day. My marriage is much more important than the anxiety of having a perfect wedding. So relish in your plans and have fun and then on your day…. let it allll go and celebrate with your family and friends. You are MARRIED…. It’s a beautiful thing.